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Monday, March 14, 2011

Note To Self: You're Doing Okay

Sometimes the thoughts in my head about myself are unbalanced toward the negative. I think of the good and the bad that I've done and I give the good too little time on the "stage" of my mind. The bad gets more stage time, and it's not good for me.

Do you do the same? I'm pretty sure a lot of us do this. I think it takes some fighting to change. So, today I'm writing to myself. And I'm giving equal stage time to the good as the bad.

I'm not perfect, but I'm doing good things. I need to keep improving, but all is not lost & although I'm messing up on some things, I'm succeeding at others and I'm recognizing where I need to improve.

Note to self:

Today Katrina drew a really cool picture and you weren't really paying attention when she told you she was drawing a face. You should've enjoyed it & gotten excited with her about what a good job she did. Instead you noticed the little drawing on the floor by the pencil crayons after she had gone to bed and asked yourself if she had really drawn everything on that page (cuz it was pretty darn good for a 2 year old) or if Talia had done some. And then you felt bad because you hadn't been paying close enough attention at the time, to notice. Fix that next time, k?

Dear Self,

You're doing okay though. You have been encouraging Talia and getting excited over her progress as she practises "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" on the piano. You also helped her memorize the first Article of Faith and taught her about what it means. And you carefully explained about what divorce is when she asked questions about The Parent Trap, and then made sure she understood about Eternal Families.
You're doing good things. You're doing okay.


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p.s. Congratulations to Regina from Chalk in My Pocket, you won the My Lip Stuff giveaway (& you have a great blog with really cute ideas by the way- love it! :)

6 comments:

  1. Everyday a mom could finisht the day and find something she could have done better. I can't think about it or it makes me crazy. If they are all alive at the end of the day, I've done my job ;)

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  2. We definitely all have those moments! Focus on the positive! From your blog writing and pictures, I am certain that you are an excellent Mom and great person.

    Kerri

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  3. Thanks Kerri, for your kind words!

    Linda, yes, it can make one crazy! I'm trying to fight those thoughts out & focus more on the positives.

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  4. I totally know what you're saying! It's definitely a constant battle. But Heather, you are such an AMAZING mom!! Just saying...

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  5. The other day while I was distracted I heard a little voice say "Mommy..." and I wasn't listening..."Mmm hmmm Ben, just a minute, I will help you in a second"
    I got more distracted, and went on to do a few more things, forgetting about him. Awhile later I hear "um Mommy can you come now?" Oh right! I went over to him on the floor in the kitchen to discover his hand caught in the cupboard (with the childlatch on so he couldn't get out) He probably waited for a goof 15-20 minutes for me and you better believe I felt like the worst parent on the planet...but then some days I really nail it to! I think when your intent is good and you are trying your best that is all you can do! And I, for the record think you are nailin' it too:)

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~Heather Lynne

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